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Thoughts On Marriage Greetings, I was talking with my friend Laurie today. We talked about an old friend of ours, Maggie. Laurie says that Maggie is now in Wisconsin, and pregnant. She is also married, and I think she was wed before she graduated high school. I told Laurie that I'd be cool if Maggie could support the kid. She asked me, basically, why. I look around nowadays. I may be married young as well, but I also know that my good friend Sam is a single mother from a one-night stand, and the father won't support the kid, from what I last heard. My brother Matt is away from his kid all the time, and he's heading for a divorce with his wife. That I suppose is my major beef with young marriages/pregnancies. I suppose my other problem would be with something else Laurie said about it, that that's what you get married for. Is getting married just for having kids? That's not what I was taught, and what my limited experiences tell me. Marriage is about spending your life with that significant other. I would say she, but I also believe that you may find your soulmate in a person of the same sex. I may not participate in that philosophy, but I recognize it, because as the phrase goes, "Whatever floats your boat." I suppose that also leads back into my train of thought. If marriage was only for producing offspring, would it be such a big thing if two people just lived together but never had kids? To be perfectly honest, I could see Nicki and I living our lives without having kids. We might be missing that little part of us that longs to have a child who calls us mom and dad, but I feel marriage is more about commitment. You pledging your undying loyalty and kinship to one, and only one other person. I know that there are couples out there who don't get married, but raise perfectly normal children who grow up to function in todays world. But there's also an element of responsibility that both parties have to accept. You both acknoledge and accept that there are going to be good times and really bad times, and you just roll with it and work it out together. People are amazed at how sometimes when Nicki or I am mad, we can just look at the other and say "Hi," then laugh it off. Personally, I kinda fear the day that I'll become a father, if that happens. I guess it also has to do with the enviorment that I'm in, the people that I see, the experiences that I've felt, and emotions I've sensed. I'm not sure how to be a dad, and I guess no one really does. It's just one big learning experience. I always wonder to myself, "Will my kid turn out like this? Will the kid grow up like did? Will he go through what I did?" Hopefully not. I wish Maggie all the happiness that she can handle. I know that her Catholic upbringing has instilled in her some good things, since she was able to resist me. ;) Ironically, Metal Gear Solid and Metal Gear Solid 2 both touch this subject at it's base, genetics. Nature versus nurture in a way. I'm not so sure that we're all born with a genetic fate. I also believe that one's genes determine potentials, not barriers. I guess I'm really just concerned that, since I really don't know a whole lot about Maggie's current overall situation, that she might not be able to help her future child reach it's full potential, the core of my thought. Maggie, if for some odd reason you're reading this, good luck. And get my phone number from Laurie sometime and call me damnit to say hi. "I'm not home right now. Please leave a message after the beep. BEEP." - The Colonel, on a Codec call to Raiden, Metal Gear Solid 2: Sons of Liberty
Personal Log, 25 Apr 2004 - 2004-04-25
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